CONGRATULATIONS!
You Completed Your 7 Day Bootcamp!
Over the last 7 days we have taken you on a powerful, vulnerable, and beautiful journey to understand how YOU can shift your anxious attachment style when you start considering a ‘BioPsychoSocial’ approach to healing.
By making friends with your biology, becoming curious and compassionate about your psychology, and through assessing the state of your social connections around you, we can start understanding why our body reacts in the way it does and how we can work with it to create a new state that becomes your consistent, safe and secure home base.
With the toolkit we have gone through this week, you can start to rewire your body’s responses and we are so excited for you to continue this journey to create your new state.
Your NEW 13 steps to secure
Welcome to your new anxious attachment cycle - one where you utilize your biology and your psychology to start coming home to yourself in the most stressful moments.
The next time that you feel yourself having a wobble, follow the following steps:
Triggered? Acknowledge that your nervous system has been dysregulated.
Acknowledge that this dysregulation is a biological response to a potential threat in your environment. Ask yourself - is this person a safe person or social connection for me? Should I be entertaining this individual or allowing them access to dysregulate my nervous system?
Acknowledge you are not your biology or your biological responses- but identify how and where you feel this reaction in your body. Acknowledge that you are not 'your biology’ and that this chemical cocktail of neurotransmitters and emotions will pass.
Identify the ‘real fear’ beneath the threat - “I thought I am scared of X but my real fear is Y…”. Connect to your inner child in this moment and acknowledge how they feel and what they need (and probably what they needed when they were much, much younger too).
Start your somatic shaking - begin to release the stress response in the body before it intensifies further. Keep going until you really feel like you have released the stored emotions inside of you. Let your body take you where it needs to go and let your emotions flow (whether you want to cry, laugh, shout, or more).
After shaking - enjoy the moments of calm in your nervous system. Commit to grounding back into your body, feeling the security of being IN your own body and feeling the peace of part of your stress response being completed.
At this point, commit to no protesting and no protest behaviors whatsoever.
Instead, write the “What I want to say is…” exercise and continue to move through the stress response. Allow your body to feel as if you are speaking to that person, almost giving it the cathartic release that it needs. Remember - do not send this message.
Go back to your “They love me because…” list. In this moment, remind yourself of the love and security from those around you and how you are worthy of love, consistency, respect, kindness, safety and stability and nothing less than than any of those things. Feel the love from the list & meditate into bringing this love and self-love back into your body - because this is the moment that you need it the most.
Wait 24 hours before sending any messages or making any phone calls to the individual in question.
For the remainder of the day, focus on YOU, YOU and MORE YOU (and your biology!). Bring yourself back to your own sense of self - remind yourself that you are a GOOD person and you are SAFE and SECURE and you are not deserting you in this moment.
Use meditation and breathwork (or more shaking) to keep the stress response moving through your body and to continuously commit to bringing your body out of ‘fight or flight’ and back into ‘rest and digest’
As the day progresses, continue to stay grounded in reality (that whatever happens, I will be okay) and continue self-soothe before getting a good night’s sleep (with a little shake and meditation before bed). Everything is never quite so bad the next day!
And remember - this is YOUR NEW cycle. The more you intentionally work to repeat this cycle, the more your biology will start to learn to respond in this way.
Welcome to the future of creating your state!
And that’s a wrap!
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Don’t want the journey to end? Want to go deeper into the BioPsychoSocial approach to healing with the OPENHOUSE therapists? Your journey doesn’t have to end here!
The following resources have been created to take you deeper into healing your anxious attachment style at the root.
Want to go deeper into topics covered in the 7-day bootcamp? These resources are for you:
1/ Deep Dive - Healing the Psychology of Your Anxious Attachment Style ft. Dr. Tari Mack
In this best-selling, 50-page, step-by-step, therapist-backed Guide, Dr. Tari Mack helps you understand the psychology of your anxious attachment style and how to better understand your own personal core wounds, limiting beliefs and more.
This 50-page PDF covers:
Deep dive into the core limiting beliefs that drive the anxious attachment style.
How and why the cycle is damaging for you and those around you.
Inner child work: Learning to protect your inner child in dating/partner choice while healing.
Pattern identification: Recognizing patterns that exacerbate the anxious attachment style.
Making friends with fear: How to identify and heal the real fear lying behind your cycles.
The concept of ‘positive intention’ and how scaffolding can help you move from stress to calm.
How to spot bad behavior that will exacerbate the cycle.
Over 180,000 people have streamed the OPENHOUSE anxious attachment podcast episodes, and this guide is the next step on your journey to heal your anxious attachment style faster and more effectively.
In this best-selling, 50-page, step-by-step, therapist-backed Guide, Dr. Tari Mack helps you understand your anxious attachment style and how you can break the cycle and live with more peace, calm, and harmony while also starting to enjoy dating.
You can now stop scrolling TikTok to piece all of the advice together and instead go on a therapist-backed journey to understand, break, heal, and rewrite your anxious attachment style and the neural wiring that comes with it.
This therapy guide covers:
Introduction: Meet your therapist, Dr. Tari Mack.
What is the anxious attachment style: The connection to our childhood and early foundational years (as well as pre-birth experiences).
The biology of your anxious attachment style & the sensitivity of your nervous system today.
How your attachment style formed (+ the connection to your limbic system): And how healing is a psychological and biological journey.
Core limiting beliefs related to the anxious attachment style.
How and why the cycle is damaging for you and those around you.
How the anxious attachment style feels / the cycle in practice.
Key acknowledgments that need to be made to move forward and to heal.
Inner child work: Learning to protect your inner child in dating / partner choice while healing.
Pattern identification: Recognizing patterns that exacerbate the anxious attachment style.
Making friends with fear: How to identify and heal the fear lying behind your cycles.
The concept of ‘positive intention’ and how scaffolding can help you move from stress to calm.
How to spot bad behavior that will exacerbate the cycle.
Plus:
3 x journaling exercises.
An active journey through triggers, feelings, fear, stories, protesting, and more.
Your new cycle and what life can look like without an anxious attachment style.
An active 8-step process to understanding your own personal cycle (including the psychology of triggers, fears, protesting, stories/narratives, and more).
How healing your nervous system helps heal the attachment style.
And more
Plus - Order Now & You’ll Receive Full Access to The House Community Group with 600 other Healing Honeys
Disclaimer: The information in this PDF and all other material contained on this website are for informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your Doctor or Physician.
2/ Deep Dive: Healing the Biology of Your Anxious Attachment Style ft. Sarah Murphy
Want to go deeper to understand how you can use your biology to manage and heal your anxious attachment style? This Guide is for you and goes deeper into:
Step-by-step Morning & Evening Healing Routines to help rewire your attachment styles.
Supplement Recommendations: The 11 best supplements we recommend for optimizing your brain for new beliefs and calming your nervous system.
More ways to calm ‘amygdala hijack’ to prevent impulsive behavior that can push people away.
How to activate & oxygenate your prefrontal cortex for better emotional control and more logical reactions.
The importance of clearing deep-rooted trauma for better emotional stability and stress reduction.
A deep dive into why you need to increase vagal tone to increase calm and contentment.
Louise’s personalized self-soothing routine that she has used to heal her anxious attachment style personally.
Over 180,000 people have streamed the OPENHOUSE anxious attachment podcast episodes, and this guide is the next step on your journey to heal your anxious attachment style faster and more effectively.
In this best-selling, 50-page, step-by-step, therapist-backed Guide, Dr. Tari Mack helps you understand your anxious attachment style and how you can break the cycle and live with more peace, calm, and harmony while also starting to enjoy dating.
You can now stop scrolling TikTok to piece all of the advice together and instead go on a therapist-backed journey to understand, break, heal, and rewrite your anxious attachment style and the neural wiring that comes with it.
This therapy guide covers:
Introduction: Meet your therapist, Dr. Tari Mack.
What is the anxious attachment style: The connection to our childhood and early foundational years (as well as pre-birth experiences).
The biology of your anxious attachment style & the sensitivity of your nervous system today.
How your attachment style formed (+ the connection to your limbic system): And how healing is a psychological and biological journey.
Core limiting beliefs related to the anxious attachment style.
How and why the cycle is damaging for you and those around you.
How the anxious attachment style feels / the cycle in practice.
Key acknowledgments that need to be made to move forward and to heal.
Inner child work: Learning to protect your inner child in dating / partner choice while healing.
Pattern identification: Recognizing patterns that exacerbate the anxious attachment style.
Making friends with fear: How to identify and heal the fear lying behind your cycles.
The concept of ‘positive intention’ and how scaffolding can help you move from stress to calm.
How to spot bad behavior that will exacerbate the cycle.
Plus:
3 x journaling exercises.
An active journey through triggers, feelings, fear, stories, protesting, and more.
Your new cycle and what life can look like without an anxious attachment style.
An active 8-step process to understanding your own personal cycle (including the psychology of triggers, fears, protesting, stories/narratives, and more).
How healing your nervous system helps heal the attachment style.
And more
Plus - Order Now & You’ll Receive Full Access to The House Community Group with 600 other Healing Honeys
Disclaimer: The information in this PDF and all other material contained on this website are for informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your Doctor or Physician.
3/ How to Communicate About Your Anxious Attachment Style ft. Dr. Tari Mack
If you've successfully navigated the initial weeks of dating, find yourself in the early stages of a relationship, or are already in a committed partnership but have yet to address your anxious attachment, this Guide is tailor-made for you.
It can feel like a hard conversation, but it doesn’t have to be.
Crafted by esteemed clinical psychologist and therapist, Dr. Tari Mack, this script provides you with precise guidance and invaluable insights, equipping you with the exact words and essential topics to broach when discussing your anxious attachment style.
Let us handle the heavy lifting for you, ensuring a gentle, compassionate, and lighthearted conversation with your significant other or the loved ones around you.
If you've successfully navigated the initial weeks of dating, find yourself in the early stages of a relationship, or are already in a committed partnership but have yet to address your anxious attachment, this PDF is tailor-made for you.
It can feel like a hard conversation, but it doesn’t have to be.
Crafted by esteemed clinical psychologist and therapist, Dr. Tari Mack, this script provides you with precise guidance and invaluable insights, equipping you with the exact words and essential topics to broach when discussing your anxious attachment style.
Let us handle the heavy lifting for you, ensuring a gentle, compassionate, and lighthearted conversation with your significant other or the loved ones around you.
Disclaimer: The information in this PDF and all other material contained on this website are for informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your Doctor or Physician.
4/ Healing Your Abandonment Wound ft. Stephanie Therapy
Work with Stephanie Therapy to better understand (and heal) your abandonment wound, through:
A quiz to assess the severity of the wound and experience.
6 common ways that abandonment wounds are formed and how they are tied to your nervous system.
The six stages of the abandonment cycle.
The three main coping mechanisms people use to deal with an abandonment wound.
How to re-write your abandonment cycle.
The ‘This Feels Like When’ analogy.
And much, much more!
In this best-selling, 50-page e-guide, designed to help you understand and heal your abandonment wound, Stephanie Therapy takes you on a journey to replace the constant worry and nervous system stress of 'Are they going to leave?', 'Have they changed their mind?', and 'Am I good enough?' with a new belief system and a better understanding of the cycling of the abandonment cycle (and how you can break it).
WIth an abandonment wound quiz, 6 journalling tasks, an active 8 stage reflection and re wiring process and a recommendation for the one supplement we advise to help with neural re wiring and creating new thought patterns and beliefs, this is the ULTIMATE therapy backed guide to help you find safety from within to heal your abandonment wound and take a step forward towards happier, healthier, calmer, and more stable relationships.
The therapy guide covers:
Introduction: Meet your therapist, Stephanie.
What is the abandonment wound: Learn about the abandonment wound and its impact on your life.
Do you have the wound?: A self-assessment to determine your personal connection to this wound.
Understanding how the wound can form: Explore the factors that contribute to the development of the abandonment wound from childhood, adulthood, and beyond.
How did YOUR wound form?: Instructions for a guided meditation moment to delve into the origins of your personal abandonment wound.
Understanding the cycle of abandonment: Explore the recurring patterns and behaviors linked to the abandonment wound.
Understanding how your inner child fits into this cycle: Learn how your inner child plays a role in your responses to abandonment triggers.
What are your specific triggers?: Help you identify the unique situations or behaviors that activate your abandonment wound.
What are your specific fears?: Examine the fears that underlie your abandonment wound.
The 'This Feels Like When' analogy: An analogy usually saved for Stephanie’s 1-1 clients.
The 3 coping mechanisms for an abandonment wound: Explore common coping mechanisms that push you away from intimacy or pull you towards it.
How these coping mechanisms define your intimate experiences and whether you are choosing partners that help or hinder this: Reflect on whether your choice of partners supports your healing journey.
Pattern protesting: Recognize and address behaviors that perpetuate your abandonment wound.
Replacing protest behaviors with new beliefs and self-soothing: Learn strategies for replacing destructive patterns with self-soothing techniques.
The Ideal Abandonment Cycle: Envision a healthier cycle of abandonment and healing by understanding a healthy cycle.
How to create a new cycle: Practical steps to create a positive, healing cycle in your life, including how to communicate about your abandonment wound with loved ones.
Things that will stop you from healing the cycle.
Once you address your abandonment wound you can:
Live a calmer, more regulated life
Finally start to feel safer within yourself and your relationships
Transform the way you date and relate
Gain increased levels emotional stability in all aspects of your life
Feel more secure, confident, and at peace with yourself
Use your new confidence and sense of peace as a foundation to become a happier, healthier, and more attractive version of yourself!
Plus - Order Now & You’ll Receive Full Access to The House Community Group with 600 other Healing Honeys
All of these resources will help you to:
Continue your healing journey.
Say goodbye to just being ‘an anxious person’
Finally stop responding hastily and irrationally.
Feeling anxious, triggered & panicked all the time.
Overthinking and cringing about things you say or do.
Feeling horrible when faced with silence.
All without:
Months of paying for expensive and often inaccessible 1-1 therapy.
The struggle of finding the right therapist for you.
Wasting your time jumping from one relationship to another, hoping that the next person will be “the one.”
Most of all, thank you! For showing up for yourself and your future. I am proof that if you continue to rewrite your cycles intentionally that you can rewrite your future.
I’m so excited for what lies ahead.
Louise x
